I.A. Richards observed that there are two kinds of discourse, one of which “points” while the other “depicts.” Self comes about through a co-ordination of these forms of language, the first of which is in converse with the environment and the latter with “inner” experience. The two language forms, which reflect different states of mind, have different developmental pathways which are joined with the formation of the Jamesian “duplex” self and the birth of the reflective function. In this talk, the two developmental pathways are briefly sketched and compared with the “horizontal” and “vertical” themes of contrapuntal music. The vertical theme is fragile, made by a relationship based on resemblance i.e. consonance. The emphasis of a therapeutic approach to an individual in which the fabric of self is stunted or broken up is principally on creating this second theme by means of relationship in which resemblances, or analogues, of immediate experience are co-created in the therapeutic conversation and depicted in a “language of feeling.” Some details of this kind of therapeutic conversation will be discussed.