This presentation will explore the interesting relationships between what is said and what is heard.
For many of us there is an automatic assumption that we will be heard the way we imagine we would like to be heard. We are often not well prepared for when this does not occur.
This presentation suggests that this simple assumption is not only at the core of all human miscommunication and conflict but that it is also poorly understood in psychotherapeutic circles.
As a result the minute particulars of how we understand and misunderstand what is said to us is insufficiently explored and patients regularly feel misunderstood, mistreated and possibly re traumatized.
This presentation highlights the need for the therapist to consider the possibility, perhaps likelihood that he or she has misunderstood the patient, rather than any of the other alternatives. It is incumbent upon the therapist to enter the patient’s world of meaning rather than prioritise their own perspective or one generated from experience distant theories.