This radical psychosocial and cultural transformation has brought about the existence of a new norm: ‘sharing the same blanket and bed’ – a metaphor for gender equality and greater autonomy among women. Whereas, pre-colonial social arrangements normed gender segregation, ritual initiation secret practices, and antagonistic marital exchange between semi-hostile clan hamlets, the new discursive practice imagines relative gender equality via Christianity in material and sexual practice. Among the most powerful effects of this change has been the radical unlearning of heteronormal oral sex (a woman fellating her husband) in favour of exclusive vaginal sex with the implicit or explicit aim of pleasuring both partners. The traditional Sambia sexual belief system also treated semen as an elixir and stimulant to growth and fertility, making boys’ oral ingestion of semen, and young women’s oral insemination a part of human development. This paper examines these socio-sexual changes over the past 40 years – both in terms of what appears to be the advance towards modernity and the move away from it.